Dealing with Family Problems

One of the most difficult problems to face with respect to household relationships is that you do not control the whole relationship yourself. Whether the relationship evolves or perishes does not depend on you alone. When serious family relationship problems are found, it is normal to try a control strategy. You attempt to obtain another individual to overcome.  Once in a while this method works, particularly if your request and the other individual are both reasonable. Yet, many times it only leads to disappointment. On the other hand, if you cannot alter the other individual, perhaps you ought to just take them as they are. That is another strategy which works once in a while, but this one could lead to disappointment as well and even anger if your needs are not being fulfilled.

You must require the best possible solution. Family members are the most beautiful, believable, and helpful people on the earth. You might get some disputes with them but it is a matter of point of opinion change and not the feeling change for one another.

The followings are some steps which may help to cope with family problems:

·       Try to analyze the problem first not from only your view point but from all others' view points as well. This is to accommodate all alternative views. Then find out which one is the best.

·       Get all possible solutions. But prioritize the most possible one.

·       Note down all possible solutions on paper and rate them. Consider calmly, not emotionally and try to gain the most positive solution.

·       Discuss all ideas with all family members in spite that every family member owns different level of knowledge. One is the same as or better than the others.

·       Do not ever think negatively and never think about abandoning your family.

·       Agree to the decision where everyone obtains some kinds of positive for themselves

The Strength of Positive Thinking

Positive thinking could lead you to pacify your turbulent feeling due to your negative thinking. If you can feel what is going on within your emotion you will find out how powerful the positive thinking contribute you pacification inside. Positive thinking is spreading and affecting the vicinity especially human. This is good to be applied to have a family harmony.  For example, when you are in a good mood and think positive thoughts then you are less likely to yell and be moody and when you are in a good mood your kids are, too. Positive attitude or behavior can create an image to who is behaved. A mother had better instruct her child to learn by utilizing the words ‘smart boy’ rather than ’not a foolish boy’.  Thus, the child will portray himself a smart boy instead of a foolish boy. Just see what the effects.

Your positive view on life also gives your kids the instrument to relate with the ineluctable bumps and curve balls of life. In spite of the outcome, undergoing positive emotions such as hope, joy, optimism, satisfaction, convenience and confidence is much more 'life-granting’ than negative emotions such as mistrust, fright, pessimism, and uncertainty. A negative view is draining and works against you in your attempts at becoming a healthful, helpful and considerable parent. Positive emotions whatever attempts to knock us down.A positive thinking can enhance self-confidence in children make resiliency and resiliency is one of the characteristics which assists to get us via. Kids usually undertake what we do not what we say. Explain something to your kids by doing the real things. This way can build their positive thinking. Positive thinking can aid parents to realize their kids and their selections not ought to be very deeply meddled but encouraged and guided. 

Caring for One Another in Our Family

All young children, adolescents and parents require to be praised and affirmed by those particular members of their family. The younger kid develops positive feelings about himself from those giving care. The adolescent empowers his or her self-concept from the healthful statements or signal showing care. In healthful families, underpinning family members is one of the bonding pillars. You must allow your family members hear extolling and feel affirmation from the family members. Try to do repeatedly the followings especially while family members are trying new skills or require special attention.

The first is get the family members to act a skill or talk about how they feel at a particular time in their life such as a young child dressing oneself for the first time, a teenager showing under school pressure, or parents having many things to do. Listen, pay attention, and question to show family care. The next is do sharing reactions and observations by having each individual talk about what they underwent. Ask questions pertaining to how they feel doing the activities, what the hardest parts were, what they like best, what they learnt about themselves or about family. Then talk about themes, problems and issues and motivate the family members to tell positive things dealing with new skills, whether there were common or similar learning, and how the family members reacted. Conclude what you have done. Emphasize the tenets applying to life facts and concentrate what is essential to your family. Eventually focus on how the new learning could be carried out in everyday situations and how the learning has been distinctive from the previous to the present condition. Families showing care one another feel about each other’s well-being. They see they can rely on each other for motivation and support.

The Problem Trigger Causing Headaches

 

You should not get a headache at the thought of unresolved family issues, because they could be overcome. Here are some examples of family problems which might cause headache with some suggested solutions:
1. Being lavish or wasteful is one cause of headache. A wasteful attitude is inherent because we are not in strict discipline in managing family finances. Spending money for unnecessarily essential goods is categorized a waste. The solution is tightening supervision of the use of family money. Avoid traveling to malls and shopping centers.

2. Boredom causes a headache. It can spark friction leading to a big fight between the spouses. The solution how to relieve boredom among others is by travelling with family members or arranging the house rooms so that they look different and often having jokes with your spouse or family members.

3. Work Problems Cause Headaches. One of the triggers of family problems is a job that makes a headache. The worse is when the work affairs are taken up home. The problems like this usually infect the urban people, whose a workload is so heavy that many families become victimized, even abandoned. The solution is just love your family to avoid boredom.

4. Getting away from responsibilities causes headaches. Eliminating the responsibility of a family issue triggers a very detrimental effect. The cause of getting rid of the responsibility is the very human’s internal factor such as laziness and reluctance to improve oneself. The solution is back to enforcing commitment and responsibility to foster family and awareness of making mistakes and not repeating it again.

5. Cheating or having affair causes headaches. This is the most fatal problem and the complicated sickness of lies, responsibility elimination, and a boredom sense of humans. Therefore, the humans try to find something different, but actually it is forbidden by religion and undermines the value of marriage. The fatal impact of the affair is that you are no longer trusted by your partner; your good name is polluted, and the worst is that it is not simply rather than a headache but it is recorded by God as a serious sin.