Avoid Getting Divorced

Everyone hopes his or her wedding is always in happiness. Happiness or unhappiness depends on each spouse, for it is the couples that will control the family condition. Basically every couple does not want to experience divorce in their household and wants the marriage to be everlasting. Therefore, every marriage should have a key to achieve the happiness and longevity. The followings are three keys to have a lasting and happy marriage:

1. Create a happy marriage

A happy marriage does not mean there is no contention. It will be questionable whether the marriage is happy or not if there is no a quarrel. Why is that? It is because the quarrel or fight usually occurs due to misunderstanding then lacking of no communication. Thus, the arguing will lead to discussing each of resentment and eventually will find out why. Usually a quarrel will make a couple get closer together. However,quarrels should not be encouraged. Frequent fights could be leading to a serious problem.

2. Have special time for being together.

If you are a busy couple, try to make free time for your spouse. You could use the free time to go to a place that you like, doing a hobby or pleasant activities together such as cooking, washing clothes together, and so forth. With this free time you can understand your spouse more and your understanding each other can preclude and avoid getting divorced.

3. Have no secrets.

Since a marriage couple was acknowledged, there should have been no more secret. Why? Because if there is a secret and there is something covered, the spouse will feel suspicious and not believe each other anymore. But that does not mean if you already know your spouse’s secret, you can easily divulge it to anyone. This should not happen, because the secret of your partner is your secret as well, and vice versa. By keeping your spouse’s secret you can avoid divorce.

Family Finance

The financial affairs of the family are the affairs of all family members. When one family member does not follow the family finance agreement, this will be messed up all the steps that have been taken to keep the family finances remain stable. Controlling the family finances properly is part of trying to have a happy family.

Some financial actions that can be done are as follows:

1) Husband and wife should be open about family finances. This openness will make them become comfortable in managing family finances. If there is something hidden then usually it will be the start of a big problem.

2) Children should be involved to know the value of money early on. It does not mean to make the child a gold digger, but to make him not controlled by money. For example, what can be obtained from $1 or what can be done with $100?  Let the child understand the various forms of money.

3) Make the finance board that contains weekly and monthly expenses. Encourage all family members to discuss the amount of money in and out for all to be aware of what has been done with the money and what will be done with the family finances in the next time.

4) Absorb financial knowledge. Thrifty person is one who knows how to use the funds for the benefit of all the families that need to be met without compromising the other items possibly needed. Do shopping as needed and necessary, not only because of the demands of willfulness. Family finances will get better when all family members know about the science of finance.

5) Inculcate your kids the habit of respect for money by way of saving. This is the first step to educate how to manage money well. Saving money is a wise future-oriented decision.

6) Learn to invest even small. For example, by buying precious metal like gold in the form of bars or jewelry, bank deposits, shares or saving deposits. You can also buy land or a house to be used as a long term investment.

7)  Discuss money and finance with all family members

Harmonious Relationship betwixt Kids and Parents

For those of you who already got married and have children, maintaining a harmonious relationship with the kids is a happy family tip that you cannot ignore. Harmony and happiness of a family cannot be separated from the good relationship between parents and children. Attitudes or behavior of the parents towards the kids when they are doing routine activities such as playing, learning, shower, go to school, or going to bed should be appropriate for the children’s character. Here are some tips in keeping a good relationship with the children:

• Apply a democratic parenting in which the communication between parents and children is going in both directions. This will make the parents understand the ability of the child, and the child can understand the will of their parents.

• Interact frequently with the child in any case such as while playing, studying in the house driving to the school, or going to bed. Accompanying the child in all things can make him know that his parents are very fond of him.

• No matter how busy your work, take time for your kids. Many cases happen where a child is being naughty or caught up with the wrong crowd simply because they do not get the attention of the family.

• Penalties or punishment sometimes are necessary to be given when the kid is breaking the rules seriously. However, the good judgment is of course not physical punishment such as hitting or slapping. Give severe sanctions enough for children but the sanctions still aim to make them conscious. For example, the kids should not be watching television in a certain period of time because they got bad test scores.

Signs of Harmonious Household

 

The signs of harmonious household couple can be seen when the couple:

1) Carry out responsibilities the best. When responsibility is well conducted everything will be satisfactorily felt. Comprehend the husband’s and wife’s responsibilities each other.

2) Is always steadfast and patient in living real family life though sometimes is raided by a lot of temptations.

3) Succumb mutually for the sake of the couple. The opposite of succumbing is being selfish or egoism. The attitude of egoism is never compromised in any peaceful place. If this attitude is acted out in marriage household it is the same as creating a state of turmoil.

4) Maintain the honor and self-sanctity. The honor and the sanctity are just for the couple not for someone else.

5) Maintain good relations with the families of both parties. When among relatives-in-law and other family members are not in harmony. The couple will tend to be carried out in this situation.

6) Always express the words of compassion and act out the deeds of compassion. This conduct can entail peaceful atmosphere.

7) Maintain partner’s secret so that it is not known by others. What will happen if a spouse tells his or her counter spouse about a secret of each other? You can imagine this.

8) Listen to each other and avoid egoism. This attitude brings about couple tranquility.

9) Provide mutual support toward goodness to reinforce the couple relationship towards the stronger one.

10) Remind each other in goodness and prevent the occurrence of adverse actions. These are preventive actions to avoid breakage. The golden goal is a harmonious household.

Being a harmonious couple cannot be created in a single night. However, if both parties want to make efforts seriously, then a harmonious couple is no longer simply a dream.

Joyful Family of Feeling Grateful

Being grateful is feeling satisfied enough with all of what is acquired and owned and feel grateful to Almighty Creator who has given livelihood. Almighty is the creator of nature and all its contents. Only Him only all humans express gratitude as much as possible.

The first tip of happy family is a family of gratitude experts. Happy families categorized in this group have and implement the belief that only God is the source of goodness and happiness. So, praise Him with full of gratitude for His kindness that we receive. Verily, He does not need our praise because He is the One Praiseworthy. If we are thankful, it is just for our own goodness.

Humans have been awarded, hearing, eyesight, and heart. Unfortunately, only few of them show gratitude. Feeling grateful here is optimizing the gift that has been received, namely everything that we own. So, with the potential available anyone has the same capital to be a useful man for himself and for other people. On the other, if what you undergo is the opposite, it means you have not become gratitude experts. You can compare a thankful individual with an ungrateful one. The both individuals similarly have a set of colorful television with the same size and trademark. The former feels grateful because he can enjoy watching all TV programs he likes. But the latter differently feels unsatisfied with he wants the TV because of the size, trademark, and the product quality he desires, the better though the available one is good enough. This ungrateful attitude just makes him unhappy.

To obtain happiness, a family must get used to being thankful for whatever they already have. Only in this way, surely every event including even adverse events can be learned, so that family life will always be joyful. Hopefully you have a joyful family because most or all household members have deep gratitude.
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